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Today marks the 128th Tuesday in a row that I've sent out this newsletter. It's a positive habit that I want to keep alive for as many years as I can but that doesn't mean it's always easy. I've had health scares and emergencies come up, vacations and periods of distraction where I didn't want to show up to write. There's been last minute scheduling changes and work obligations that have threatened to derail hitting my self-imposed deadline. But through it all I've kept my writing habit alive and well with the aid of one simple concept: In times of hardship I just lower the bar. While training for a marathon a few years ago I realized that whenever I stopped jogging to take a break or walk, it became much harder to start jogging again. Once my momentum was gone, I couldn't get back up to speed and paradoxically, I felt more exhausted after my sessions. So I stopped taking breaks. Instead, I would jog slower. In fact, I would jog so slow it looked like I was running in place. Even when running uphill I maintained a snail's pace, my feet barely lifting off the cement. I lowered the bar of what it means to "run" and in turn I was able to finish my first marathon without stopping to walk a single time. Habits work the same way. Maintaining momentum is the best way to keep a habit alive and well. Losing momentum isn't the end of the world, but if you're not careful, could be the start of a new habit of not showing up. So lower the bar if you feel like it's a struggle to show up for the day. Write one sentence in your journal instead of a page. Read for five minutes instead of an hour. Do a light bodyweight workout instead of lifting heavy if you're tired. A "1" on the scoreboard is better than a "0". And lowering the bar is also great for rebooting a habit that has fallen off. When I came back to making YouTube videos after a 3 month break I felt overwhelmed. So instead of writing a script and compiling a big file of research for the topic, I decided to lower the bar by riffing on an idea unscripted instead. Not only did this lower the bar enough for me to get back into the groove, it also unlocked a new process for doing things. I realized that I had the bar too high to reasonably maintain and after that decided to change how I make videos going forward. So next time you're trying to build a new habit or reboot an old one, remember there's no shame in lowering the bar to maintain momentum. Prompt: What's a habit you've been struggling to maintain or start? What is one possible way you can lower the bar so you can start to build momentum? |
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I was 33-years-old the first time I experienced living in a home without a tv. Three stories up an old brick apartment, I entered an AirBNB in Florence, Italy that my wife and I were about to live for the next four days. It was the second leg of our honeymoon and we were excited to explore the birthplace of the Renaissance. The wood floors creaked with each step as I explored the studio. A built-in bookshelf stocked with Italian novels and hefty art books lined one of the walls. The pull-out...
The most cherished journal I own is the one that contains my travel logs from my honeymoon a few years ago. My wife and I spent two weeks travelling across Europe where I recorded everything we did in a list format. The entries were simple: one or two lines for each activity we did with as much detail as I felt necessary to trigger my memory. The result was a few pages that continue to act as a time machine whenever I revisit that notebook. It never took me more than a few minutes a day to...
Everyone I know wishes they spent less time on their phone. When I tell these same people that I only spend an average of 10 minutes a day on my phone they think I must be living off the grid or something. But I'm writing to you on a laptop that's connected to the internet, I publish videos on YouTube, and I use my smartphone to text my wife every day. The real secret to reducing my screen time has been a series of tiny experiments and habits that have proven to be sustainable for me. Here...